Confident on Video? Or Freeze, Fight, Flight?
Our body unconsciously adopts the “freeze » fight» flight” stress response, which causes cortisol (stress hormones) to rise. The release of these hormones can wreak havoc on your nervous system and mindset.
In stressful states, old negative thinking patterns or thoughts may surface, which can decrease your self-esteem and your motivation. Studies (MRI imaging) found that negative thinking stimulates parts of the brain that generates depression and anxiety1, 2, 3.
Our feelings have a big impact on our physiology. How we use our brain to think has a big impact on how we feel, and how we feel drives a lot of our conscious or unconscious behavior.
Anyone can put themselves on Video.
But NOT Everyone is W-a-t-c-h-a-b-l-e!
Throughout my 20+ years working in TV and Film (in front of and behind the camera), collaborating, coaching and casting 1000s of people from all walks of life; from acting professionals, models, presenters, clients, and total newbies, here are some of the common performance “themes” that I see negatively impacting people’s on-screen performance.
Affects the head, eyes, face, neck, shoulders, mindset, body chemistry, mannerism, body language, gestures;
- on-camera charisma, warmth, and likability factor becomes negatively impacted
- screen presence and confidence takes a dive
- affects the ability to influence in a persuasive way
- drains energy
- expressive features become impaired i.e. speech being tongue-tied, dry mouth
- eye-contact with the lens becomes ineffective (e.g. eyeballing, bulging whites, darting excessive blinking)
Anxiety triggers negative thinking, insecurity, low-self-confidence, self-image doubts, and fears increase;
- Impacts the ability to focus on the task at hand, affects present moment-awareness and connection with the lens
- Self-consciousnesses, internal self-monitoring, negative self-talk, guarding, shutting down.
- Flip/flopping energy – overcompensating or underwhelming, neither is ideal
- More on-camera mistakes, mind blanking, speech flubs, forgetting movement (blocking), missing marks
In a filming situation, this can be very off-putting when you are not used to it. Rather than let yourself be intimidated by this “being observed” process, the following advice may help you.
Are you Self-preoccupied?
When we are too preoccupied with our thoughts (trying to “get it right”, recalling information, etc) we lose the connection with our body. Our breathing patterns can become irregular, which drives up stress levels and impacts our vocal delivery.
Other presenters struggle with sporadic, repetitive movements, and gestures. Fidgeting, head bobbing, swaying are the common ones I see.
For a deeper dive into on-screen charisma, plus access to additional mindset strategies that can help you with an excessive blink rate, mind blanking, or how to observe yourself in the most empowering, constructive way contact me here).
Feel into discomfort – is a way into yourself
Feel into your Discomfort. This is your way to Emotional Freedom
Behaviors that tend to keep you stuck are often felt as resistance and avoidance. They are the Ego’s protective mechanisms that keep you hiding or cocooning in the cave. It’s a form of escaping into a false safe space (psst there is no safe-space, you cannot outrun your mind) because it’s afraid of the feelings that discomfort will stir up.
Unmanaged thinking patterns create unproductive emotional states. Your reactions to those patterns of thought (if you are conscious of them) are fueled by the stories you tell yourself. Many of those thoughts, or what I call story dramas (or soap operas) aren’t true or based on indisputable facts. Rather they are based on a judgment, assumption, opinion, or a belief about yourself. These are not facts.
Lean into the Charge – 90seconds is all it takes
When you lean into the charge of your emotion (triggered by an attachment to your thoughts) by neither resisting, reacting, attaching or getting caught up in the stream of them, you begin to build up your inner strength reservoirs to handle the seasons, the ebb and flow of life. You can face the good, the bad, and the ugly of life head-on. Join me for coaching strategies to deal with this.
To paraphrase Neuroanatomist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, we get to control our thoughts and negative emotions. Limbic responses like anger or fear that can be triggered automatically leave an emotional charge for about 90 seconds as they surge and discharge through the body. Once the 90 seconds have passed, we are indeed choosing to stay in the negative emotion, by fuelling the charge of that emotion with storytelling. We essentially become hooked (like a drug) to the storyline.
It’s not Personal. Our Thoughts Think – its What They Do
Get curious and examine these thoughts, notice what the mind does. Imagine yourself being a conscientious, scientist performing thoughtful, experiments. This way there is no need to resist, react, attach, or get caught up in the Soap opera drama of the thought or feeling. Leaning into negative emotions can be an opportunity for growth. It’s a way into self-reflection, its a way into radical growth, a way to uncover blocks.
These feelings are here to show you what you need to investigate at a deeper level so you’ll be able to redirect your thoughts to be more empowering and based on fact. This will enable you to be more effective when you are presenting on camera.
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Cheering you with your video creations!
If you have a question or you what me to cover a topic for you let me know. I’m always listening!
Founder of STEBIAN.com ★ Video Presentation Coaching and Production★ Established in 2006 Bianca provides an exclusive, personalized consulting service for business owners, entrepreneurs, thought leaders, speakers, best-selling authors, and VIPs to help them present themselves, their products, services, or brand message to their target audience in the most effective way possible on video. Her clients want to master the screen and command the lens, in a compelling way and in any filming situation. With Bianca, you’ll get the tailored expertise from a real-world operator with over 20 years of TV/Film industry experience working in front of and behind the camera. Enhance your on-camera presence, influence, and screen confidence with compelling video presentations. Find out more today.
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